To accommodate the conservative Kunar group, we conducted separate workshops for the females, which would have been fine, but the Balkh girls, being more urban and sophisticated, wanted to work with the guys as a team. All the Kunar girls were here with their brothers (otherwise they would not have be able to travel) and were completely under their control. We had many a long talk with the brothers about why their sisters couldn't do even the most simple, safe exercise with the men, even while staying completely covered. The answer was that, if word got back to their village that their sisters had been face to face with strange men, it would be seriously dangerous for the entire family. And who would bring back this information? The other guys from Kunar, even though they are their friends! The honor of the entire family rests on the woman's shoulders, and it seems no one outside the family unit can be trusted. On the bright side, the women themselves were strong, well-spoken and brave. I was more impressed with their calm and clear presentations than the men's. It is a tragedy that these brilliant young women cannot make a single decision for themselves.... yet.
Here is an interesting example: On the first day, the groups presented their "community profiles". The Kunar men made a fine presentation about how trees in Kunar are being cut down at an alarming rate which is leading to soil erosion and polluting the rivers. The Kunar women did a presentation about violence against women with shocking visuals of women with ears cut off, noses cut off, beaten badly... and also spoke about how women are blamed for crimes they haven't committed and often traded to pay off debts. Later, in speaking directly with the brothers of the Kunar girls, I asked why their project isn't about violence against the women and the women's project about the environment? Which is more important to you, I asked, cutting a woman or cutting a tree? Isn't a woman more valuable than a tree? They actually were taken aback; I don't think they ever thought of it that way. And now they are working on both issues together! After that discussion, the Kunar men began presenting about violence against women... and the environment too. Success!... a small one but mighty!
Now both groups have returned to their provinces, and we will be monitoring their progress over the next month. We feature theatre, photography, mural painting, radio plays, poetry and music in our training as great ways for them to bring their issues to the wider community. Communication... this is where the arts excel! However, you can see the limitations of how, where, when and with whom they can present their art.
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